I was recently reading a great book that I would recommend to anyone and everyone- The Impossible Just Takes a Little Longer by Art Berg. There are so many key takeaways, but the one that has stuck with me this week is “what our children teach us.” If you have a child, you already know that children enrich our lives in so many ways. Kids are resilient. They don’t take “no” for an answer. They fight for what they want (through tantrums, but regardless, they fight hard). When they are learning to walk and fall down countless times, they get back up over and over again. They celebrate their small successes and are so proud of themselves.
Every morning, my daughter takes her diaper, walks it to the trash, opens the door, throws her diaper in, closes the door and turns to me with the biggest smile while clapping her hands. Success! When we go to the park she isn’t judging the other kid going down the slide, commenting on what he is wearing, their color of skin, or what their hair looks like. She goes up and says “hi.”
I look at my daughter and only see happiness and love. She gets excited about the littlest things. She lives life to the fullest, the only way she knows how. How do we lose that so quickly in our crazy lives? We lose sight of what is really important, how to have fun, laugh, play, love ourselves and be proud of our achievements. We don’t fight for what we believe in, and we don’t believe in ourselves. We are taught to be safe because failure is a bad thing.
Just the other day I stopped at a local store to pick up a few items. There was a young girl at the check out next to me and her card wasn’t working. The line began to grow larger behind her. I am sure you can imagine the daggers that were being sent her way-gosh, no one has time for this! You could tell she was getting embarrassed as the cashier kept trying her card. We have all been there! Rather than being kind, the reaction from people is awful. I almost walked away when I said to myself, “I have been there- what could I do to help?” I turned and asked her if she needed help, fully ready to pay for her little bag of items.
It is time to learn from these beautiful humans we have created. Don’t be afraid to be ridiculed for standing up for what you believe in. Don’t be afraid to be the odd one out, because we are all individuals-not meant to be the same. Don’t be scared to take risks and fail. Be kind, make friends, give others the time and respect that you would in return ask of them.
I want to live by my daughter’s examples. At the same time, I want to be a hero in her eyes. I am noticing more how I react in everyday situations, and am reminding myself to live with my daughter’s eyes and heart. I’d love to hear what you have learned from your children. How can your view of people change if you envision yourself in your children’s world?