You are an average of the 5 people that you spend the most amount of time with. POWERFUL! I learned this many years ago and it is one of the best lessons I could pass along to anyone. You may find that the closest people in your life are polar opposites, some are inspirational-they push you to go further, dream bigger, be better. There are also those that emote jealousy, heaviness, and starve you of your energy.
Throughout your life you grow and mature, so naturally your “5” will also shape shift to more accurately reflect your values. It is crazy how quickly this happens. As Beyonce would say- “I’m gonna upgrade ya.” Decide on the 5 people that you spend the most time with, or you feel you are the closest to. Remind yourself to be in your body the next time you have a conversation with one of them-this will aid mindfulness and awareness. How do you feel leaving the conversation? Is your energy and self-worth heightened or depleted?
I continue to reevaluate who I choose to open my life to. My pickiness has not hindered, but instead only helped me, both in my career and with my mindset and mental clarity. Allowing yourself to discontinue unhealthy relationships only opens the door to people with similar aspirations and goals. The much needed positivity in times of doubt, and the thoughtfulness in difficult situations. One of the most gut-wrenching things I have ever done is graciously cut ties with those that I believe are a hindrance to my happiness and success. When you miss the company, ask yourself if you miss the emotion accompanying it. Surround yourself with people that are understanding of the life you live, and better yet, are experiencing the same thing.